There is a story in this morning’s New York Times about President Obama’s outreach to clergy in the wake of his announcement that he supports same sex marriage. The story is well worth your time but there is a quote that is the biggest take home for me:
Mr. Hunter’s cellphone buzzed shortly after the Wednesday interview. “I’m not at all surprised he didn’t call me before because I would have tried to talk him out of it,” Mr. Hunter said.
“My interpretation of Scriptures, I can’t arrive at the same conclusion,” he said. “He totally understood that. One of the reasons he called was to make sure our relationship would be fine, and of course it would be.”
For those that don’t know, Dr. Joel Hunter is the pastor of Northland, A Church Distributed, in Florida and is nobody’s idea of a member of the “liberal clergy”. He was very clear that he did not agree with the President’s decision but that their relationship, in spite of the disagreement, would be fine.
Unfortunately, friendship like this is often hard to come by. It is dependent upon agreement and consensus rather than commitment to relationship. But you need friends who don’t agree with you; who knock your rough edges off. Proverbs 27:17 says “Iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another”. It’s the friends in your life who don’t agree with you completely who are the most valuable. They challenge what you believe; causing you to either defend or reject your stance. They cause you to think critically and make decisions based on facts and not emotions. And at the end of the day, even if you can’t come to agreement, they remain your friend. If you can walk through life with two or three of those, you are a very rich individual.










