Friendship Defined

There is a story in this morning’s New York Times about President Obama’s outreach to clergy in the wake of his announcement that he supports same sex marriage. The story is well worth your time but there is a quote that is the biggest take home for me:

Mr. Hunter’s cellphone buzzed shortly after the Wednesday interview. “I’m not at all surprised he didn’t call me before because I would have tried to talk him out of it,” Mr. Hunter said.

“My interpretation of Scriptures, I can’t arrive at the same conclusion,” he said. “He totally understood that. One of the reasons he called was to make sure our relationship would be fine, and of course it would be.”

For those that don’t know, Dr. Joel Hunter is the pastor of Northland, A Church Distributed, in Florida and is nobody’s idea of a member of the “liberal clergy”. He was very clear that he did not agree with the President’s decision but that their relationship, in spite of the disagreement, would be fine.

Unfortunately, friendship like this is often hard to come by. It is dependent upon agreement and consensus rather than commitment to relationship. But you need friends who don’t agree with you; who knock your rough edges off. Proverbs 27:17 says “Iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another”. It’s the friends in your life who don’t agree with you completely who are the most valuable. They challenge what you believe; causing you to either defend or reject your stance. They cause you to think critically and make decisions based on facts and not emotions. And at the end of the day, even if you can’t come to agreement, they remain your friend. If you can walk through life with two or three of those, you are a very rich individual.

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Heading Home

I left home last Monday for Fort Lauderdale, Florida to work on a litigation project. I flew home Wednesday afternoon and left again Friday morning to come to Dallas for some professional development and continuing education. It’s about 5 AM CDT as I sit in my hotel writing this post and in a few minutes I’ll pack up my bag and head to the airport. My hope is to have no overnight travel for at least the next two weeks and possibly longer. That’s a tall order based on what I do for a living but we’ll see how it goes.

I have a number of blog posts in my head. Hopefully I can settle into some sort of routine in the next few weeks and get them out. In the meantime, I’m ready to go home and see my family (and start another busy work week).

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Toast

Let me state right off I love working with families with special needs. It’s fantastically rewarding and you really get a sense that you’re doing something good. But it is also emotionally draining. I spent yesterday (all freakin’ day!!) with a family in Alabama. Great folks, envolved case and I think we accomplished a lot of good stuff. I got to my hotel in Atlanta last night around 9:15 and I was toast. That’s not a big deal but I slept all night and flew back this morning and I am still toast. I think I’m going to leave the office on time for a change and rest my brain.

I am thankful that I don’t have to manual labor for a living. I’m a wimp and would likely go hungry in short order (not a bad thing as I’m obese). But sometimes emotionally draining work is just as hard or worse. Sometimes it’s hard to shake and get back to normal. Hopefully normal is in store for tomorrow.

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Admins are Gold

I was inspired by this morning’s post by Matt Blumberg on his admin and what she does and how valuable she is. Our firm is not the size of Return Path and we share an admin (Hi Karen!) but I can only echo his thoughts. We have noted multiple times that Karen is the glue that holds our far flung operation together. At any one time, our professional staff could be anywhere from New York, Florida, and California and all points in between. It is very important to have one person coordinating administrative functions so that things don’t get lost in the shuffle. We have that in spades. The most important function is that Karen can look at my mail and know what needs scanned and sent to me now and what can wait for my weekly mailing. This is a huge time saver for me.

So thanks for doing what you do so well, Karen. And go read Matt’s post. It’s a gem.

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Optimized for Tablet

I have extolled the virtues of my iPad (now iPad2) on this blog before. Perfect device to casually consume media whether it’s audio, video, web or whatever. Along that line, I’ve optimized the feed from the blog for tablet with technology from the good folks at Onswipe. The URL is onswipe.com/donalderyan.

Onswipe made a big splash in last year’s TechStars class in New York. Beautiful technology that makes tablet viewing a dream. They are seriously funded and I think, as we become more mobile in our internet consumption, they will become a serious player in this space. Right now, I only push my blog and Instagram feed to that URL. The option exists to put as much or as little content as you like. Very cool stuff.

If you want to optimize your content for tablet viewing, I highly recommend Onswipe. Go now. It’s free.

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Obamacare Goes to Court

Today, the individual mandate in Obamacare went to court. To say that it did not have a good day would be a vast understatement. The Solicitor General was absolutely savaged by the conservative wing of the court. He came across as tentative and unprepared. Not good times when you’re in the big leagues.

As I mentioned earlier, the way to have avoided this whole mess would have been to institute a tax to pay for a national single payer system. Congress won’t do that because they don’t have the stones to do so but it takes away the commerce claim and the “is it or isn’t it a tax” claim. It, to my thinking, strains the limits of good sense to say that causing private citizens to engage in private contracts with private insurance carriers is not an overreach of the government. Oh well.

One other point. If you cover every citizen in the country it’s going to be expense. Extremely expense. Let’s not pretend that any of the reforms that Congress pushed down the road and will never enact are going to do jack squat with the deficit. This law, as is, is going to be wildly expense. Let’s embrace it and move along. If you want to extend health insurance to everyone in the country, you’d better have a REALLY big checkbook.

Last point- Mr. Clement and Mr. Carvin who were arguing against the law were excellent in framing their arguments. Mr. Varelli, the Solicitor General, while an excellent lawyer (you don’t get into that job if you aren’t) did not have a good day.

Do yourself a favor and listen to the arguments or read the transcript here.

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What I like about Obamacare

Yesterday, I set forth with some oral diarrhea on my thoughts on Obamacare (aka the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act. Blah). Two things I think are fatally flawed in this bill are the individual mandate (which just strikes me as very heavy handed) and shoving massive numbers of people to Medicaid (which I think is not sustainable). I don’t think the law, en toto, is completely hideous. Here are some things I do like.

Tracking of medical implants: This is way overdue and a much needed step. Previously, companies were not required to track the performance of their implants. If you think about it, there are tons of items that can be made to stay in our bodies for a lifetime such as stents, artificial joints, pacemakers, heart valves and other things. Wouldn’t you like to know if these things actually work in the long term? If a company like DuPuy, who has been litigated against due to faulty implants, were tracking their performance, couldn’t a lot of the litigation and revisions of surgeries be avoided? I think so. Accordingly, I like this provision.

Children can stay on parents’ health plan to age 26: I like this one, not a lot but I do like it, especially given the completely lousy job market. Many initial or transitional jobs either have lousy coverage or no coverage available. What if you could tap into the plan you’re already on during this phase? Makes perfect sense to me. It’s the same reason my 21 year old daughter will likely be on my cell phone plan forever- unlimited data. If you have access to a good plan, why give it up just because you leave college. I think this provides some much needed breathing room.

No pre-existing conditions for children: I have a HUGE occupational bias here because I work with individuals and families with special needs. A majority of these individuals are children and, if you’re searching for a policy for them, it is nigh unto impossible to get them covered. These are not pre-existing conditions due to poor lifestyle choices but due to congenital abnormalities, childhood disease process, or trauma. I think this population should have access to better coverage than Medicaid. Additionally, it eases the burden on the state by allowing the medical care for these children to be covered privately.

As I mentioned yesterday, if the goal of Congress was to cover every American then the logical move would have been to institute a single payer national plan. QED. But, as I also mentioned, this would be a very expensive proposition involving new taxes and Congress is essentially a pack of cowards. Oddly, one thing they should have but didn’t include would have been to make insurance available for purchase across state lines. Currently, health insurance is governed by 50 state insurance commissions that range from very laisse faire (Texas) to borderline draconian (New York). This causes serious fluctuation in the price of insurance from state to state. Since the authors of this law clearly have no problem with central authority, why not allow an independent body to regulate insurance sales on a national level. This would do two things. First, it would create an economy of sufficient scale (the population of the USA) to reduce costs. Second, it would provide some uniformity to the insurance process that is sorely lacking now. There is a bit of buttering my own bread here as I work with plans in various states and clearly a national standard would make my job easier. Doesn’t mean it’s a bad idea just full disclosure and all.

I hope the whole law doesn’t get struck down. I do hope the individual mandate goes the way of the dodo. Tomorrow, I’ll discuss some encouraging signs I see in the coming disruption of this massive market.

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Thoughts on Obamacare

In case you live on a different planet and hadn’t heard, the Supreme Court today begins three days of oral arguments on the constitutionality of the Affordable Care Act (aka Obamacare). This has promised, at least outside the courtroom, to be a circus of the first order. Legal analyst from all sides of the debate have weighed in, not that it matters, on the merits of the case brought by 26 attorneys general (and a few private parties). Regardless the outcome, it will be praised by the winners and decried by the losers. Such is everything in politics. I am not blanket supporter of the law nor am I a blanket opponent. Like all legislation, there’s some good stuff and some bad stuff in here. The biggest issue I had with the bill is that few, if any, members of Congress had read it prior to voting on it. That is the height of irresponsibility and should be grounds for expulsion from Congress. Then again, we’d have serious turnover if one got booted for not reading a bill one was voting on. Not sure that’s not a bad thing.

I have one major beef with the law- the individual mandate. In short, each American is required to either purchase health insurance (either via their employer or on the open market) or be fined. This is a wet kiss to the insurance industry. In order to get them to agree to take people they routinely refused to cover (ie, people who actually use insurance), Congress made sure there were plenty of other people (ie, everyone else) who were compelled to buy the product to cover that risk. The inflow of dollars into the insurance industry due to this law will be massive. Also, as another gift to the pharmaceutical industry, Medicare was barred, by law, from negotiating drug prices. This, ladies and gentlemen, in inside baseball at its finest. New customers for the insurance industry- high prices meds for the drug industry and the campaign coffers never run drug. Candidly, this makes me sick.

The stated goal of the act is to provide every American with health insurance coverage. There was a simple and far less constitutionally dubious way to do this. National, single payer, health insurance. Aka government health insurance just like a large part of the industrialized world. Why, you may ask, did the Congress not go this route? Because they are cowards.

National health insurance would by HUGELY expensive. It would require new taxes of a significant magnitude, most likely a value added tax (VAT) or national sales tax like what is used in Canada to pay for their health care. This would also be massively unpopular with the electorate who has shown a proclivity to want their cake (and icing) and eat it too. In short, it would be politically unpopular and would cost many members of Congress their seats. That just wouldn’t do although it would be the best way to insure coverage for every American. And so, with their will accomplices in the insurance and pharmacy lobby, they passed the monstrosity that is before the court today. Good times.

Upon reflection, I really hope the Supreme Court does strike the law down. Lay this issue back in the laps of the cowards on Capitol Hill and, if they really do think it’s important, make them do it right. I know they won’t because that’s who they are but it’s a nice thought.

Buckle your seat belts folks. It’s going to be a bumpy few days.

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The Most Important Travel Item

If you follow me on Twitter/Facebook/Foursquare you know that I travel a lot. I’m a consultant and it comes with the territory. I was having dinner with some friends the other night and one of them was about to hit the road. I was happy to assist with any tips I have gleaned throughout my travels and thought I’d put one out here for your edification.

So, what’s the most important thing to have when you travel? I used to think it was your pillows but in a land where no one checks their bags (even me and I don’t have to pay) that’s really impractical. Especially so on a trip like my current one which is four days/three nights long. There’s just no room in a 22 inch bag to include pillows. The most important item is something you don’t pack. It’s in fact something you can’t pack (thanks to the idiots who run the TSA). It’s water. Specifically, bottled water.

When I’m on the road I NEVER drink local tap water. I even try to avoid making coffee with it if I can. Why? Because, like in a different country, different cities and states have different additives and components to their water. And your gut is not used to these components. Combine this with eating out all the time and, if you’re lucky, a time change, and you get a nice case of travel belly. Travel belly is a ubiquitous set of symptoms whereby you feel lousy all the time but can’t pinpoint a particular cause. My son was vexed with it when we went to California a couple of month ago. It saps your strength, makes you feel lousy, and keeps you from doing what you came on the road to do. I made the switch to all bottled water (even for coffee) a few months ago with dramatic results. Little to no travel belly and I feel much better. I makes a world of difference.

So when you go on the road, forget your neck pillow (you look like an idiot) or your passport think around your neck (ditto on the idiot) and grab some bottled water when you get to your destination. Keep well hydrated. Use it for your coffee. And avoid travel belly.

Happy travels.

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The Critic

Wired has a great story this month on Bob Lefsetz. If you’re into the music industry, it’s certainly worth your time. But this rant is only tangentially about him. Bob Lefsetz was a failure in the music industry, both as a musician and a record executive. And now, he blasts away via his news letter at the industry that he couldn’t succeed in. Does that seem ironic to anyone else?

I don’t mind constructive criticism. But one thing I have zero tolerance for is a criticism from someone who either 1) doesn’t excel at that which they are criticizing or 2) critics who have no outside record of success on their own. For example, I like reading restaurant reviews but unless the reviewer is a chef, I take what they say with a block of salt. Why? Because it takes into account their personal biases. Also, my thought is, if you were good at it, you’d go do it. It’s easy to take pot shots from the cheap seats. It’s quite another to strap on your helmet and perform.

I feel the same way about business books. Most of them are written by people who are not successes in business but rather are successful authors and speakers. Theory is terrific but unless you can convert it into actionable knowledge it just makes you good at board games. Those who can, do. Those who can’t become critics.

I leave you with wisdom from the great Teddy Roosevelt, perhaps my favorite president. You simply can’t improve on this.

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.

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